Most of the things that happen to you when you’re in a relationship is what you allow to happen. Everyone controls their own life and all the different emotions that you have when you’re in a relationship you can also control that. Yes sometimes you can’t help who you fall in love with, but if it’s not right you are allowing that person to stay in your life. When someone comes into your life and there are clear signs the person is not right for you, you allow that person to continue to be in your life. You are allowing for all the bad moments and bad things that go on within the relationship to stay in your life. What you have to realize is only you have the power to let it go.
Any time you are with someone and they are not treating you right and you find it difficult to be with the person you do not have to take it. Your own happiness should come first. One of the most important things about not being happy is how can you make someone else happy, if you’re not happy yourself. It’s the same thing if you don’t love yourself, how can you love someone else. Which is why when you get with someone and they are not happy and you allow them to stay in your life you sometimes become unhappy too, because you have allowed that bad energy of unhappiness in your life.
When someone continuously take you through changes just so you can be together and their emotions, attitude and outlook is not right, you need to remove them from your life. You can’t change those things about a person, but you can walk away so that person and all those negative things will not become a part of who you are. When you allow certain things into your life, that’s what you get and that’s also who you become.
Everyone should know what they want for their lives and should also know what they will allow and what they will not allow in their life. When you know that, you can easily remove someone and not allow them to have or bring things into your life that is not right for you. The power and control of your life only belongs to you, which means you can stop it or end it so it will not destroy your life. People only do what you allow them to do.
So…my question is why do we allow other people’s emotions into out lives when it’s not right or it’s not what we want?